Have you ever found yourself asking, “Why me?” or “Why is this happening to me?” in a moment of distress? I certainly have. Just a few days ago, I experienced my first car accident. Thankfully, I was not at fault and escaped with minor injuries, but the ordeal was overwhelming.
It was a stark reminder of how quickly life can change, shifting from calm to chaotic in an instant. I experienced an unusual wave of anxiety and dread that I hadn’t felt in a long time. While waiting in the ER, I felt the onset of a panic attack, complete with that unsettling “out-of-body” sensation. If you’ve gone through something similar, you know how frightening it can be. At that moment, I focused on one thing: breathing.
BREATHE
In stressful situations, remembering to breathe deeply can be your greatest ally. I often discuss anxiety and self-care, but it’s easy to forget these strategies when panic strikes. Just minutes after the accident, I found myself shaking uncontrollably. The EMT kept reassuring me, “Breathe, just breathe, take a deep breath, you’re going to be okay.” This reminder brought me back to the fundamentals: deep breathing can significantly help during such crises. It acts as your natural stress reliever.
To calm your nerves, try this tactical breathing technique:
- Inhale through your nose, filling your diaphragm (allow your stomach to expand) while counting: 1, 2, 3, 4
- Hold your breath, counting: 1, 2, 3, 4
- Exhale, counting: 1, 2, 3, 4
- Pause for another 4 seconds before repeating until your breathing normalizes.
Deep breathing enhances oxygen flow to your brain, stimulating your body’s parasympathetic nervous system, known as the “rest and digest” system, which promotes calmness. In any stressful moment, pay close attention to your breathing and work towards restoring it to a steady rhythm.
GRATITUDE
Another powerful tool for navigating through challenging times is gratitude. If you haven’t cultivated this practice regularly, it might feel unfamiliar. Typically, when faced with hardship, gratitude is the last thing on our minds. However, embracing an attitude of gratitude can shift your perspective significantly.
For instance, despite having a concussion and various inconveniences from the accident—like car repairs, dealing with health issues, and lost work days—I find solace in gratitude. I could focus on the negatives, but instead, I remind myself how fortunate I am to be alive. Material possessions can be replaced, and missed productivity can be regained. Regardless of the circumstances, there are always wonderful people and experiences to be grateful for.
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MAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF
Prioritizing self-care is essential, especially during turbulent times. It’s easy to get overwhelmed—be it from a breakup, job change, or other significant life events. When faced with setbacks, we often fixate on the work or responsibilities awaiting us.
These challenging moments can also involve external factors, like caring for a loved one. During such times, self-care becomes even more crucial. When you’re deeply engrossed in someone else’s struggles, you may forget to address your feelings. It’s perfectly okay to take a break, switch off your phone, and give yourself some time to replenish.
LET GO OF THE GUILT + BLAME
Letting go of guilt and blame is vital for emotional well-being. We often point fingers—either at others or ourselves—when faced with adversity. After my accident, I questioned my choice to take a different route. I felt guilty for disrupting my husband’s workday as he took care of me. It wasn’t until my phone died in the hospital that I recognized I needed to focus on my recovery instead of feeling remorseful.
Blame yields no positive outcome; it only perpetuates negativity. Understanding that situations arise from various factors can help you cultivate a solution-oriented mindset. My mother often says, “There’s a solution to every problem,” which is both reassuring and empowering. The past is behind you, and the future begins now. Learn to ask yourself, “Will this stop me?”
Each challenge carries a lesson. Life’s difficulties might be unwelcome teachers, but they offer valuable insights that last a lifetime. Remember, tough times are temporary, but the wisdom gained from them stays with you forever.
