The world often feels far from a serene, fairy-tale existence. It is instead filled with discomfort, loss, and overwhelming challenges. Over the past year, I have faced my share of struggles, learning valuable lessons along the way.
My journey began with the loss of a beloved person just before Christmas, followed by a challenging treatment that severely affected my health. In June, I was in an unfortunate car accident, resulting in a potential permanent injury that may lead to chronic pain. If I had to sum up my feelings during these months in a single word, it would be “tired.”
I’ve felt an exhaustion that goes beyond physical weariness. It has been a struggle to maintain my usual sense of order and control, as my world seemed to crumble around me. A plethora of plans I had for the year went unfulfilled, leaving me feeling lost.
At first, I found myself questioning, “Why is this happening to me?” However, I soon recognized that this approach wasn’t beneficial. Instead, I shifted my focus toward gratitude.
Experiencing loss, grief, and significant life changes can leave you feeling empty. Yet, this emptiness creates space for more love and appreciation. In the wake of setbacks, you start recognizing the goodness present in your life before the turmoil. Even the smallest things become sources of gratitude.
During tough times, it often feels as though everything is spiraling out of control. However, I’ve been making slow but steady progress, utilizing powerful practices to navigate emotional and physical pain.
POWERFUL PRACTICES FOR STRESSED AND OVERWHELMED
FEEL THE PAIN
It is essential to lean into discomfort. Allow yourself to truly feel your emotions, no matter how daunting that may seem. When adversity strikes, the instinct is often to escape from the pain. You may find yourself thinking, “This doesn’t feel good; I want to avoid it.” But you must learn to embrace those difficult feelings.
For instance, when my Granny passed away, I realized that everyone processes grief differently. While some avoid the topic, others find comfort in sharing memories. You might hesitate to bring it up, fearing it will upset someone else. However, it is crucial to permit yourself to experience that grief, allowing it to shape and release you.
Times of uncertainty and hardship are precisely when you need to recognize and allow yourself to feel the pain, even if in small amounts. While some of that pain may fade with time, other moments may linger like passing clouds. Do not shy away from experiencing the depths of your emotions.
REALIZE THAT IT TAKES TIME
Not every change permits a return to “normal.” Some situations demand time for adjustment and acceptance. It’s vital to remind yourself, especially when recovering from an injury, that “it takes time, give yourself time.”
I had always been active, working out several times a week, but weeks of inactivity due to my injury have left me frustrated and feeling weak. The simple act of walking became a challenge, leaving me on the brink of tears—not from physical pain, but from sheer frustration. I constantly remind myself: “it takes time.”
This gentle reminder applies to various setbacks in life, whether job hunting, navigating a breakup, or enduring disappointment. Recognizing that healing and recovery take time can pave the way for greater acceptance.
EMBRACE THE UNCERTAIN
“Embrace uncertainty. Some of the most beautiful chapters of our lives won’t have a title until much later.” – Bob Goff Most of our anxiety stems from the fear of the unknown. When faced with adversity, your thoughts may spiral into questions like, “What will happen now?” and “How will I fix this?” Yet, this same uncertainty can lead to adventure.
Consider a friend who was heartbroken after a five-year relationship ended. Initially consumed by sorrow, she redirected her focus on personal growth for the next year. By embracing the unknown, she embarked on a transformative journey, exploring new opportunities and discovering her own inner strength.
Thus, I encourage you to embrace the uncertain.
HOW YOU RESPOND MATTERS
Life is about living, not controlling. Change is inevitable, and with it comes a myriad of challenges. While external events may be beyond your control, your reactions can shape your experience.
Your reactions—whether to a rude driver or a stressful work situation—hold power that you can harness. Take my accident as an example; I found myself overwhelmed with frustration, feeling victimized by another’s mistake. However, my mother’s reminder that it was merely an accident shifted my perspective. I realized that dwelling on anger or resentment wouldn’t alleviate my pain.
Ultimately, when things go awry, consider how you respond to those situations. Your attitude can make all the difference.
Remember, during “bad times,” we cultivate resilience through mindfulness and self-growth. These practices prepare us to face life’s adversities with grace.
Despite the urge to give in to despair, I feel hopeful about the future. I am grateful for the wonderful people and experiences in my life, and I know that the tough times will ultimately make me stronger. If you’re currently navigating your challenges, know that I stand with you. You’ve got this.
